Wednesday, February 20, 2008

Blog mentions and the IR Community

I was very humbled and excited to learn that my blog and my previous blog post, "Don't Leave Us Out", was mentioned in Angry Black Cat's eighth podcast! ABC and JeffG discuss the survey I was ranting about plus more. It was a great piece. Check it out here. You must be registered to listen to it.

I also received some great responses to that post. ChelB and Diva(Thanks for the comments ladies!) both expressed disappointment at feeling left out of the whole black women IR community just because they married men that weren't white.

I feel the same way at times. I got into the community relatively late because I had already married my husband prior to finding the community. As I said before, it's great that a movement has started to get black women to expand their options. But, it also feels like the IR community is pushing white men at the expense of other races.

Black women need to consider and expand all their options. Should Diva, ChelB, and myself be excluded from this movement just because our husbands aren't white? Didn't this movement get started because a majority of black women were limiting themselves to black men?

Expanding our options and finding love should be the key terms for the BW IR community. If you find love with a white man, great. If you find it with another race, that's great, too. No one should be made to feel like they're on the fringes of a community that can give great support just by the race of the man she married.


ChelB said...


It seems we have found some definite common ground here! After reading several IR blogs I really wondered about bw like ourselves as well. I also began thinking that perhaps I should start a community for black women who are married to non-white or biracial men too. I feel that plenty of non-white men are also capable of being wonderful husbands/fathers too. Don't misunderstand me I have nothing against white men. I happen to think that a good man can be of any race though not just white.

diva said...

I like this post. I think the important thing to remember is that the focus should be on BW doing things for ourselves and making positives choices for ourselves-regardless of the ethnicity of the man we choose to date.
I like the fact that I have been able to connect with some other BW married to non-white I guess keeping up with the blogs creates a community of sorts.

foreverloyal said...

White definitely comes to mind first for some of the obvious reasons.
However, I see ya! And I think your perspective is valued. At least by me. :)

black women first said...

Wow, you have a good blog. Im going to start comming her more often :)